I may lose some friends over this.
I may lose some followers.
But at the end of the day, I’m tired of being quiet about things that stir something inside of me.
It’s probably no surprise to most people who know me that I’m very pro-women’s rights, probably more liberal than anything else and strongly in favor of equality. As a contrast, I too attend church, I am covered in tattoos and understand it makes me less desirable to some employers and I too am a mother who wants her children to grow up in a world which is morally sound.
I’ve been biting my tongue on this whole Caitlyn Jenner thing, because really, why jump on the bandwagon? She’s not the first person to transition, perhaps the most famous one, but there have been many before her and there will be many after her.
And honestly, I’m not even here to debate transgender with anyone, because I am 100% in FULL support of the movement and nothing will change my mind. (Probably how most people against it feel as well).
But I am here to set something straight.
Something I’ve been seeing a lot of lately and am really, really sick of.
Caitlyn Jenner was awarded the ESPY’s Arthur Ashe Award. The jist of this entails: «The Ashe Award is one of the most prestigious in sports. Recipients reflect the spirit of Arthur Ashe, possessing strength in the face of adversity, courage in the face of peril and the willingness to stand up for their beliefs no matter what the cost. The award is inspired by the life that Ashe lived, using his fame and stature to advocate for human rights, although, at the time, those positions may have been unpopular and were often controversial.»
A lot of people are upset about this. A lot of people are irate because there are others who demonstrated «more courage» than Caitlyn Jenner did. In fact, there are A LOT of people who say what Caitlyn Jenner did doesn’t display courage at all.
THIS. This is where I have a problem. Who are WE to redefine courage?
Google courage. Open a dictionary and look it up. Hell, ask Siri. Chances are, you’re going to see something along these lines:
Courage: the ability to do something that frightens one.
See what I mean? No where in that definition, or any definition, does it say «courage is the ability to do something that frightens one, EXCEPT FOR» and then list a series of amendments that are not courageous. It’s simple. It’s doing something even though it scares you. It’s facing YOUR fears, whatever they might be.
So maybe for Caitlyn Jenner, putting on some heels and picking out a dress IS showing courage. Maybe it’s not for most women, but for her, it IS. And just because this seems like a small issue to everyone else, doesn’t mean WE get to determine what is or isn’t hard for her to do.
You know what was fearful for me? Putting on a bikini and wearing it out in public. My stomach is covered in stretch marks, has more fluff than I’d like, but you know what? I’m trying my damndest to love my body and that means getting over my issues with wearing a bikini. Is that particularly courageous to anyone? No, probably not. Did it feel like I conquered something when I wore it out in public? YES, it did. And it felt damn good to do that. And YOU don’t get to define what is courageous to me.
Just like you don’t get to define what courage is to Caitlyn Jenner.
Here’s the thing. I’m not saying you have to accept the transgender community; I’m not saying you have to like Caitlyn Jenner; I’m not saying YOU should think she deserved the Arthur Ashe Award over anyone else; I’m not telling you how to feel at all because it’s NOT MY PLACE to tell someone how they feel.
But I am saying this: WE do not dictate what courage is for someone else. WE do not get to redefine the word courage because it’s being used for someone who is homosexual, transgender or anything else outside of the realm of what we deem «normal.»
I am NOT a courageous woman just because I have ovaries. I am NOT a courageous woman just because I am capable of bearing children.
I AM a courageous woman because everyday I choose to do something I’m afraid of, whether that’s wearing a bikini or fighting for equality.
Just like Caitlyn Jenner IS displaying courage because everyday she does something she is fearful of.
And based on the reaction most of the public has, I understand just how damn courageous she is.
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